The fear of the unknown is powerful. It can cause you to do what is necessary to succeed, or cause you to shut down and run. It's good old flight or fight that I'm talking about. Why am I talking about fear on a blog that's supposed to be about college? Because fear is one of the biggest obstacles you'll have to conquer in college, especially if you are a first-generation college student. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of your own power and potential. But the message of today's blog is to encourage you to push past the fear. To go for it- to try it anyways. And I think that's a message that a lot of students, especially high school students, don't hear. The other night, I was facilitating a workshop and I happened to ask how many people were scared of college, and the conversation took off. Think about it. How many of you have heard "college isn't like high school"? How many of you know of atleast one person who went off to college and had to come home? College isn't a gladiator battle of intelligence, it's a process through which an indivudal (you) find the ability to confront an obstacle and overcome it. And the secret to being sucessful is realizing that you've already faced a gazillion challenges and have overcome them (at least enough to progress forward). And that's the honest, yet simple, truth. Take it from someone who has first-hand experience, and has literally advised hundreds of students: take the mountain (college) and break it up into smaller pieces (pieces or instances where you you make the best choice possible). It's about changing your way of thinking and how you approach the situation, and this takes time and practice. And as the saying goes, practice makes perfect. At the end of the day, take stock of all the things you have accomplished in spite of fear. Asking someone out, running for student government, trying out for the team, etc. If fear didn't stop you then, why should it now?
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Choosing a major. This is an important decision for students who are in or going to college. There may even be anxiety which accompanies this decision. But what if we start to look at it a different way?
I was talking with a student and and they were telling me which majors they were considering and something just didn't feel right. When I asked them why they were interested in a specific major, they started to give me a spoon fed answer. Again warning bells were going off. I stopped the student and said "ok, what if all of the majors you're considering all paid the same, would you still consider them?" The student answered, "No, I'd actually consider something completely different." I started to dig a little deeper: what do you like doing? What are you good at? What do others say you're good at? At the end of the conversation, the student ended up considering two new majors that seemed like a better fit. The purpose of sharing this story is to highlight the way in which most students view a major: as a paycheck. And while earning potential is important, there are other things that should be taken into account. For example, if you're looking into going into engineering and hate math and the sciences, it's probably not a good choice. You'll more than likely not recieve the grades you want and it may take you longer to finish school, which might mean more money. Also, with majors, it is important to realize that once you've selected a major, it isn't your only option. You can switch at any point, although I would recommend you be strategic about the process. If you're unsure of which path to take, start with asking yourself this question: What subject am do I excel in or do I enjoy in high school? This question is important to ask, because it'll give you a better sense of where to start if you're stuck and guide you in the right direction. Of couse there are other questions to consider as well such as: Do people with my major go on to graduate school? This might mean going to school after you graduate college. What careers are typically associated with my major? What is the rate of students (with my major) who find a job in their field after graduation? On average, what is the salary for people in my major? And yes, asking about potential income earnings is also important, I just wanted to stress that it's not the only thing you should consider. At the end of the day, choosing a major is deciding what's best for you, what makes you happy. Last night I was on the phone with my nephew who is a senior in high school and he asked me "what tips do you have for scholarships?"
I thought, a lot. Yet, in all of my capacities of reading and scoring scholarship applications (which has easily been thousands) there are five tips that I suggest: 1). Let your "voice" come through. - This can be hard because what exactly is your voice in an essay? I like to say it's the moment when you speak from your heart, which can be a scary thing to do, especially if you feel self-conscious. My best advice? For your first draft, take the essay question and free-write. Write until you think you've fully answered the question and then let those whose advice you trust read it so that they can help you identify your voice. When I edit essays for people, it might be just a couple sentences that I circle and say this is it- "this is what you should write about. Expand on this." And I usually follow that with the questions: how and/or why to help the essay writer as they follow that voice. Try it and the more you do it, the better you'll become. This process takes time, so start early. 2). For your final draft-stay on topic, and please, please don't give me a run down of your resume. Make sure to answer all part of the essay to the best of your ability. As for the resume part, let's just say most scholarship applications require a resume. I'm not suggesting not to include any accomplishments that you're proud of and which help you answer the question, please add those in! If you're not sure if you're giving a full on summary of your resume: again ask someone that knows you for advice. 3). Give examples. - What I do I mean? Say you're writing an essay and you're trying to explain why you think it's important to give back to your community. As a reviewer, I usually think, "ok, so I hope you can provide me with at least an example of how you've given back (and saying you only did a good deed once isn't what I'm looking for)." I once worked with a student who had a very limited resume because she had responsibilities at home and she was really down on not being able to provide examples of how she gave back to her community. My answer: don't you think that being responsible and helping to take care of your younger siblings is giving back to your community? In her essay, she went on to explain that helping keep her siblings on the right track not only helped them, but also their community in the long run. 4). Keep the focus on you. - This little nugget of knowledge just means that if two-thirds of your essay is talking about your grandparents/ and or parents and their struggles, then it may cause me to want to give them the scholarship. Not sure what I mean by this? Have someone read your essay and ask them: who would you give this to me or my (my grandparents, mother, teacher etc). 5). Proofread. - I love writing but I hate proofreading so I know it can be a pain, but think about it: if you've worked this hard for something, shouldn't you at least see it through to the end? Read it yourself, read it out loud and have the more people read it. Also advised, write, walk away and then come back to proof read. It just works out better. This also means you have to start early. DEADLINES. As the holidays and various deadlines are approaching, I want to take a moment to remind students who are looking to apply for scholarships, that meeting deadlines is EXTREMELY important! If you want to apply for the scholarship and think that you can miss the deadline and will still be considered because you have a 4.0 GPA and a resume that rivals a CEO, think again. Deadlines are there for a reason.
Meeting a deadline shows that you are mature enough to manage your time well. First step- get organized! Keep a calendar of important dates. It takes practice if you have never had a calendar before, but it can really make a world of a difference. Also, more than likely you are not the only person who is applying for a particular scholarship. I have reviewed for the Gates Millennium Scholarship (GMS) and they were extremely strict about when their applications were due. With this specific scholarship, what was at stake? It was a full scholarship to ANY college or university in the country, as well as funding for a masters and/or a PhD! As a reviewer, there were many aspects that I considered, but the bottom line was, I never even saw your scholarship application if you did not complete it in time. For the GMS scholarship, it was also important that you letter of recommendation and any additional documentation be submitted by the deadline. At the end of the day, it is your responsibility to make sure your entire application is complete. So find out deadlines, write them down, and make sure you meet the deadlines! Next week, I'm going to be talking about tips for scholarships because funding is at the forefront of everyone's mind. In the meantime, feel free to email me with any additional questions at [email protected] One of the most common questions I get is: how many colleges should I apply to?
My answer: To each their own, but please do you research first. I have worked with some students who have applied to up to ten schools and some who have applied to just one. While I recommend applying to more than one school, I would also recommend asking the following questions: 1). Does the school have a major I am interested in? And if so, what is the rate of students who go on to work in that field after college? 2). What is a school's first-to-second year retention rate (read: number of students who return to the school for their second year)? 3). If there are opportunities you know you're looking for, does the school offer them? Internships, externships, study abroad, etc. If not, are you willing to do the work to look elsewhere to get these opportunities? 4). Overall value of a degree from the institution: return on investment. At the end of the day, you’re a consumer and you should be well informed regarding the quality of education and returns you’ll gain from this school. If you’re looking for more information, check out: http://www.affordablecollegesonline.org/affordable-colleges-with-high-returns/. Yes, cost of attendance and financial aid should play a role in your decision, but there are more factors to consider than just the money. At the end of the day, I urge you to make it a point to be informed and ask questions. I was giving a presentation about this topic the other day and someone asked me: will a school take the time to answer my questions and help me? I would say: they should. And if they don’t, well…think about it. You are going to be investing time, money and energy as a student- choose wisely. |
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